• Post Divorce Reflection With Fire

    Date: 2011.01.11 | Category: Uncategorized | Tags:

    Any time a long-term relationship comes to an end, we all go through a time of self-reflection. You must think about what has happened and how you will start to make your life whole again. A fire pit is a great escape during these times because it will help soothe you as you sort out all that has happened to you.

    One of the biggest ways that you may be helped by a firepit after your divorce is actually the building of the fire itself. Divorce is something that may leave you feeling very small and weak. You must learn to move on, which often includes learning to do things for yourself and your family that you have never done on your own. However, building a fire will be a great way to cleanse your spirit and can deliver a sense of accomplishment to you. You recognize those flames are one thing you can both create and then control in your currently chaotic world.

    Whilst the fire is still burning, you will find that the flames and radiant heat are soothing and allow you to finally relax a little bit. Once you’re curled up by the fire, with a blanket wrapped around you on a cool night, your concerns and troubles will seem miles away. As you are watching the fire you’ll realize it seems give of a sense of strength as well as calm. As you are gazing into the flames, consider the resolution you have achieved by going through your divorce. Take a moment to reflect on your past, but then turn your attention to your future. Think about your rebirth and how you will recreate yourself.

    You’ll be surprised by how you can achieve resolution by using a fire pit. Do you have photos, letters, items of clothing, or other items that represent your ended marriage or your ex-spouse? You might want to think about having a soul cleansing bonfire in your fire pit to rid yourself of them. By watching items that you no longer relate to go up in flames you can experience that sense of satisfaction you need right now. Be sure to consider the possibility of any of these items being dangerous of burned before you throw them into the fire.

    Finally, a fire pit is a great place for friends to gather. Inviting close friends for a night of conversation around a warm fire might be just what you need to feel safe and loved post divorce. Nothing is better than the support of friends to help you get through any difficult life event.